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Finding our Purpose in Life- Episode 252

Finding Purpose in RetirementFinding our Purpose in Life

For this episode, I will give you an update on my retirement quest, we have a health segment on Pickleball, and Barbara will give an update on how her actual retirement is going.

Six Pillars of Retirement Lifestyle

Since the last episode, I’ve been working on my own six pillars of retirement lifestyle.

Significant Other– Les and I took an impromptu day trip the other day. We’re trying to avoid just staying at home and watching TV. Our relationship is strong. But we’re both struggling right now with our lack of social activities.

Friendship-Over the last month, I’ve been making an effort to solidify some of the relationships that I formed over the last few years since I’ve moved here. In a fifty-five-plus community with a lot of clubs, it’s easy to make a lot of acquaintances. But there’s a difference between being friendly with someone and actually being friends with someone.

Family– On the family side I’ve had a disappointment. My estranged brother recently informed us that he won’t be attending my father’s memorial service that he helped plan last year. I’m really disappointed that my brother’s not coming, although honestly, I kind of knew he wouldn’t. You know, all of us have family disappointments, and mine is no different.

On a positive note, I’m trying to build my relationships with other family members. I usually don’t send my siblings gifts for their birthday. But this year, to help strengthen our relationships, I sent my two sisters a gift for their birthday. I know it’s a small thing, but it’s what I did to help with those relationships.

Spiritual– My spiritual pillar is also indeed lacking. Part of it is because I’m really not ready to attend church again. We are currently in an uptick of COVID cases where I live. And not only that, but I know at least three people who have died. They were all fully vaccinated, and one was healthy and in her late 40s. So yeah, I’m scared. And yeah, I’m not as social as I once was because of that. But I’ve been working on this. And I’m trying to give thanks for what I have. I’ve also been meditating and praying, and I’ve been reading my former pastor’s daily emails.

Health-On the health side, I’ve been doing very well. If you’re a regular listener, then you already know that I lost 20 pounds during COVID. I know, totally opposite of what most people did. It’s been a struggle, but worth it. Because I’m lighter now, I can do more. I’m swimming once a week, I’m doing water aerobics five days a week, and synchronized swimming twice a week. I know, you think I’m probably going to turn into a fish, at least Les thinks that. In addition to all the water activities that I’m doing, I watch what I eat. However, I’m disappointed that my cholesterol is still high.

Purpose– I struggle with this and it is one of the reasons I’m still working. If I’m not working, then what is my purpose in life going to be? Is it this show? Is it doing fun things? I mean, doing fun things isn’t really a purpose, is it? I don’t have grandkids, so they can’t be my purpose. So, until I figure it out, I’ll still work because I really do enjoy helping people.

So, tell me, help me out. What’s your purpose in life? Have you figured that out yet? Send me an email, at [email protected] and tell me what you’re doing? What is your purpose in life?

Health Segment

For this week’s Rock Your Retirement Health Segment, I have Lynn Cherry with me. She is the host of a podcast called Pickleball Fire. As you can imagine, she talks about pickleball. Lynn moved from North Texas to Connecticut and needed to find an indoor activity to do during the winter. She went to her local gym to check out what pickleball was about. She ended up playing that day and immediately loved it!Finding Purpose in Life

It’s a game very popular with people in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80’s

Lynn enjoyed the sport so much she ended up starting a website to grow and promote the sport. During the beginning of the pandemic in 2020, she actually started her podcast.

Among other things, Lynn talks about what pickleball is, why a lot of older people really love the sport, and how it’s played.

I asked Lynn to tell me if there was one thing that you want our listeners to learn about pickleball what would it be? She said in terms of the game if you need something to do and to get up off the couch to try pickleball. She said that it isn’t like going to the gym. It is fun, easy and she has even interviewed someone on her Podcast who lost 100 pounds by playing pickleball! So, it is definitely great exercise

If you don’t like going to the gym, or don’t have a membership to one, and would like to find a pickleball court near you, Lynn has you covered.

If you go to https://pickleballfire.com/courts you can find various places to play. And within that search feature, you can also find instructors. She said it isn’t necessary to get an instructor but if that is something you would be interested in that is another option.

Pickleball is becoming so popular that there are even restaurants that are putting in pickleball courts! You can visit https://chickennpickle.com/ to check it out

What’s is going on in Barbara’s Life?

Finding Purpose in Life We talk about Barbara’s recent trip to Mexico with her friend. There was actually a hurricane coming during her trip but thankfully, they did not get a direct hit where they were staying. Then, a few days following that, there was a devastating hurricane in Louisiana.

There was one day during her trip where she was walking by herself and just kind of asking God what’s going to happen now with fall approaching. With everything shutting down, she was coming to the conclusion that she needed to cancel all of her trips and just stop planning because it’s just so unpredictable.

Not having plans is difficult for Barbara. Learning to live through a pandemic is not easy and like all of us, Barbara is trying to figure out how to navigate her “new normal”

We talked about Barbara trying to find her purpose. She decided she needs to just accept and lean into this fall, that it’s not going to be what she planned. But she needs to be okay with it.

Final thoughts from Barbara on Finding Purpose

It’s realizing that having a plan is one thing but being able to adapt that plan to the conditions that there are at the time, not getting too attached to one specific vision. Because then you can miss the butterflies. You can miss out on what’s right in front of you. Something as simple as taking a dog for a walk or taking a child for a walk. There are so many things that we tie up with entertainment. Going to a place like Disneyland or going on a cruise or going to Mexico, when really right around us there is life being lived.

There are wonderful people and there are stories to be heard. And in our zeal to program our lives to book a trip, how many times are we missing out on things that are right around us? Because we’re just not looking for it? Because we’re so focused on this future thing. So for me, I have no regrets about retiring. I have felt so enriched this summer, I’m so grateful. It’s kind of like get over yourself. So what if you don’t get all your plan. Find something else to pivot on. Take a class, learn to paint, call a friend. It’s just kind of like, say yes to life, and quit worrying about the things you don’t have is the lesson I’ve been learning this summer.

 

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Pre-Retirement and Post-Retirement

You’re now listening at another pivotal time, where we’re slightly changing the format. From March 2016 to August 2020. This was an interview-style show where I interviewed people who could help you rock your retirement. But not financially. Those were what I call the encyclopedia years of the show. If you were interested in a particular topic, such as finding Mom a retirement home, dealing with grief, or even how sex changes after retirement, you can probably find your topic in our back catalog.

Then, in August of 2020, we started following the life of a pre-retiree, Barbara Mock. She is retired now, and we are planning on giving you updates on her life and what’s she’s going through as long as she’ll let us.

Sor for now, we are giving you updates on my life and how I’m dealing with continuing to work and getting ready for retirement.

We will do this until I find another pre-retiree who’s willing to make that 1-year commitment to let us live vicariously through their eyes. I’m looking for someone who’s different from Barbara. Perhaps an unmarried person? Or maybe someone who is going to retire but maybe isn’t quite so financially prepared. Maybe someone without a pension. So, if you know someone who is getting ready to retire, within the next 6 months or so, please send that person my way. They can email us at [email protected]

Update on Kathe’s Life

You may or may not know that I started the show because I have been struggling with my own thoughts about retirement. Les and I are financially independent. So I don’t actually have to work. But I continue to work. I’m sure that this is true for a lot of my listeners.

Below are some updates on my life that I discuss in the show

Our move to the 55 plus community

You might know that Les and I purchased a home in a 55 and older community in October of 2018, and moved there shortly after. Prior to moving, we did a huge search of communities. We even created a spreadsheet with a little bit of help from a friend to help us with the search. Here is a copy if you’d like to see what factors we considered. https://www.rockyourretirement.com/55Plus  And I’d love it if you’d help me update the spreadsheet for others. So if you have other items that should be included, please let me know. I also talk about the adjustment to the new culture, food, and even changes to my Medicare Business due to the move. 

My weight loss and health

In January of 2019, I decided it was time for me to lose the 20 pounds I gained over the years. I talk about how I lost the weight, and what I do to keep it off and stay active in my life now.

Traveling

We have had to cancel a lot of travel plans lately due to COVID and health issues Les has had. I did still take a two-week “staycation” and decided to spend some time making new friends and fostering current friendships. 

Making time for what is most important

Even though I am still working, I am making time for things in my life that are important. My health, my relationship, friendships, and activities.

What is Barbara up to?

She spent the first week of July getting ready to help with Vacation Bible School which was very rewarding. There were 438 kids in all.

There were about 120 volunteers, and about 90 of them were high school and junior high students.

Barbara got in a tug of war and was in some of the games. Needless to say, it was very exhausting for her!

There were about 120 volunteers, and about 90 of them were high school and junior high students.

Barbara got in a tug of war and was in some of the games. Needless to say, it was very exhausting for her!

“The little kids just give you hope for the future. They were just amazing.”

She also just finished up Nana Camp with her 3 grandchildren and it was everything Barbara had hoped for. The precious time with her grandkids was amazing. They just left a few days ago and she is still recovering with the laundry, the house, and just her energy levels, but super rewarding.

No Schedule and Uncomfortable

So now Barbara is in a new month, and everything is blank. There is nothing on her calendar.  She literally went from going 100 miles an hour to just stopping. Life is just unstructured with no schedule, and that’s an uncomfortable place for Barbara to be.

Barbara is a planner and with nothing in her schedule right now I asked her how she is managing.

“I’m driving my husband crazy. I keep putting out possibilities for things they can do.  And while they’re not big decisions, as a retiree, you want to make good decisions, you want to use your time wisely. You want to use your money wisely. you today to look ahead, figure out what you want to do, where you want to go, and how you’re going to get there and how you’re going to pay for it.”

Focusing and Meditation

I asked Barbara if she has ever thought about mediation. And like many of us, she struggles to just sit quietly with ourselves and not have our minds wander. I use an app called brain.fm to help me meditate. I feel like giving your brain a rest, even for a few minutes a day is good for your brain and it is a good way to help prevent getting dementia

Club Med

I talked about a recent vacation Les and I took to ClubMed in Florida. This is an all-inclusive resort so the food, drinks and many activities are included. The food is absolutely amazing, some of the best I’ve ever had. There were some pros and cons to our trip and we did end up leaving two days early, but overall we had a really nice time.

What’s Next?

Barbara enjoys connecting with people, so she plans on cultivating some new friendships and gathering with current friends.

There is also a bit of uneasiness for Barbara on what’s next for the fall and winter. Predictions show a very wet fall and winter where Barbara lives and she doesn’t want to be there the whole time. So she is feeling a bit anxious that she hasn’t filled that space with anything yet. We talked about the idea of putting ideas of places to go during the winter months as sort of a retirement idea jar

She is planning on slowing down just a bit since things have been so busy for her. So, her focus right now will be relaxing, reading, walking/hiking, getting exercise, and of course her ladies golf two days a week.

Barbara is hoping that she can keep a good balance. She feels like she needs things to stimulate her intellectually and emotionally.

“I think our brains are better when we’re interacting with other people or other cultures or going to different places. I think for seniors anyway, it’s good to not just sit at home and watch TV, it’s good to get out. And even if it’s in your neighborhood, experience other places, and other things so that you can actually have a memory triggered, so that you can use your brain that way.”

Health Segment

For our health segment, we have Jon Pearlman, co-founder of Mission Lean the leading fitness app for anti-aging. Today John and I talked about stretching.

It is important, for older adults, especially sticking to a consistent flexibility routine is a must. A lot of injuries that an older person might suffer from having to do with a lack of flexibility and a lack of range of motion. This can be avoided if somebody just commits to a consistent routine of flexibility and stretches.

John recommends 3-5 times a week of 10 minutes a day stretching

Also, your stretching routine should be done after your workout when your body is warm, and all the muscles are warm.

Can you stretch when your muscles are cold?

According to John, the answer is yes. It’s not ideal because when you’re warmed up, not only are your muscles activated and warm and ready to absorb those stretches to the fullest.

Don’t forget to download the mission lean app to get more fitness routines and tips. To learn more, download the Mission Lean app on your cell phone or you can visit https://missionlean.com

Do you have any questions? You can email your questions to [email protected] and we will try to answer them on the show.

To get a copy of The Baby Boomer’s 30-Day Journal go to: www.RockYourRetirement.com/Journal

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Focusing on Health in Retirement: Episode 250

Focusing on Health in RetirementAs you may know, if you have listened to our previous episodes, Barbara has spent the first part of her retirement doing a lot of traveling. She and her husband went on a golf trip and another trip to Utah with many stops along the way.

There have, however, been some sad things happening and it’s related to Barbara’s friends and family and their health.

Her brother-in-law was just diagnosed with cancer. So they are all rallying around him. She has a very close family, and everyone lives on the same street. He is only 57 years old and the diagnosis is making him sort of rethinking his life and what he is doing. He is actually going to retire.

Barbara also has a very close long-time friend how has just found out has some heart issues. He too is planning on retiring.

Another friend had a quadruple bypass and another fiend is losing his eyesight. She has also had some friends and people close to her with health issues and pass away.

So on one hand Barbara has had some great things going on in her life and then also some very sad things.

I asked Barbara how she is feeling about the people in her life with health issues. She said she has been praying a lot but she is also just sad. She feels like you need to utilize the time you have and now and not just live for someday.

I think when there is grief and loss it can cause you to focus on the right things. Family, friendships, quality time with people

Renting E-bikes

On Barbara’s last trip to a wedding, they had decided they didn’t want to rent a car. She found this amazing concierge service that delivers bikes. She rented them for 3 days and they rode around Dana Point. They decided to rent e-bikes because the area was so full of hills. Best decision ever!  She said with an e-bike you are still peddling but the bike just gives you a little bit of an assist. There are pros and cons, of course, but for people that are of a certain age, or if your knees don’t work as well or if your hips don’t work, e-bikes are a game-changer. You’re outside, you’re able to go a much further distance. And as a result, you stay on them longer. Barbara was riding four to five hours a day, without any problem.

Les and I just started doing water aerobics. I’ve noticed since I’ve lost the 20 pounds that I lost over the last year and a half. I’m sleeping better my brain is less foggy. There is a brain-heart connection. And so for the listener, if you’re not exercising, try to find something that works for you. Whether it’s walking or a combination of things. Studies have shown that getting your heart rate up can help with your brain health.

Focusing on Health in Retirement

What’s next for Barbara?

For her birthday, her daughter bought her something called story worth. It’s an application and her daughter was able to go through and choose about 50 questions. The program sends Barbara an email once a week with a question that her daughter picked out and she emails back the answer. After a year, once all the questions have been answered it publishes a book. I think the idea of you writing your memoir over the course of a year just by answering some questions, is fantastic!

Barbara’s church had a plea for help at the Vacation Bible School. So she will be teaching a group of 4th graders.

We also talked about “Nana Camp”  She will have all 4 of her grandkids for a week. She and her husband decided they would do a play on The Amazing Race. So she is deep into planning for this major and exciting event coming up!
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Health Break Segment

For our health segment, we have Jon Pearlman, co-founder of Mission Lean the leading fitness app for anti-aging. John and I talked about the importance of warming up before your workout and why sticking to a great warm-up routine is going to enhance not only your workout but your longevity and fitness for years to come.

Countless, scientific and sports studies out there have shown that people who warm up diligently before sports have improved performance, both across aerobic and anaerobic sports, such as cycling, running, and swimming. Even when John was training and competing as an athlete, warming up is was such an instrumental part of his routine. The Mission Lean app has anti-aging programs that include warm-ups. Depending on which workout you choose, there are at least two or three dynamic mobility, mobility, and flexibility, routines.

Don’t forget to download the mission lean app to get more fitness routines and tips. To learn more, download the Mission Lean app on your cell phone or you can visit https://missionlean.com

Do you have any questions? You can email your questions to [email protected] and we will try to answer them on the show.

To get a copy of The Baby Boomer’s 30-Day Journal go to: www.RockYourRetirement.com/Journal

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Retirement Lifestyle- Endless Summer Vacation

Retirement Lifestyle- Endless Summer VacationWe last spoke with Barbara about a month ago and she is still in the honeymoon stage of retirement. She said it is like she is on an endless summer vacation.

Barbara and her husband were planning a trip to St. George Utah, but they decided since she is retired, and they have more time, and life is more flexible, that they would drive instead of fly.

Her husband planned a wonderful trip to get to their destination. They went from Washington to Oregon and from Oregon to Boise, Idaho, and then to Utah from there.

Letting the planning reigns go for an endless summer vacation

I asked Barbara what it was like for her to let her husband do all this planning because she is normally the “planner” in the family. She said for this trip she yielded happily. Her husband spent hours trying to figure out where to stay and what activities they would do because he wanted to mix it up between golf and walking or hiking.

“He just did a great job. So, I guess in retirement, what I’m learning is roles can reverse a little bit. And that’s okay. I think when I’ve initiated the trips, I needed the power and control. But with that comes a heavy responsibility of wanting to make sure people are having a good time and they’re having fun.  Sometimes I just wasn’t able to be in the moment where this was super relaxing.”

Travel Budget

One of the things that hold me back personally from retiring is not being able to replenish that bucket of money. Even though financially able to retire now, there is something holding me back. So Barbara I and talked about how she is managing her travel budget. Sometimes they make choices to spend less on other things such as maybe clothing for example to put extra funds in a travel budget. The one thing that is important to Barbara is that they never travel on credit. They always have the money when you think about your life, and all the different things that you choose to spend your money on, I just choose to not spend it in other areas of my life in order to travel, because that’s my priority. That doesn’t mean it needs to be yours. Maybe you travel to baseball games all the time, or you buy lots of things. Those are policy choices that each person can make.

“You can afford anything, not everything”-Paula Pant

The Kolob Arch Hike

This is a 14-mile hike where Barbara’s husband tried to kill her (not literally but it was very intense) The Kolob Arch is one of the largest natural arches in the world but it is seven miles in and seven miles out to see it. She used up all of her water and had to share it with her husband for the last mile.  Barbara was dehydrated, her heart was racing and she felt nauseous.  Her husband told her to put on her big girl pants. After it was over Barbara was very glad she did it. Her takeaway for the listener is this. If there are places that you want to see before you die, that require mobility and being in shape, you should do them. It gets harder the older you get.

Barbara and I also talked about a miraculous experience she had while hiking. She and her husband ran into a street performer and healer and that has performed as “Angel Bird” all over the world, including Florence, Berlin, and Paris. She described her dance as a celebration of life and freedom. You can read more about this experience on Barbara’s blog post: Snow Canyon and Angel Bird

From being able to travel without time restraints to having the time to walk her grandchildren to school Barbara has learned that these moments she is making during her “endless summer vacation” are precious andRetirement is an endless summer vacation she is so grateful she is able to make them.

If you have any questions for Barbara, please feel free to email us at [email protected] and we will try to answer your question on the show.

Health Break Segment

One of the six pillars of retirement is Health and if you don’t have your health, nothing else matters. For our health segment, we have Jon Pearlman, co-founder of Mission Lean the leading fitness app for anti-aging.

John and I talk about flexibility for peak performance. So basically, how you can start to incorporate stretching into your workout. Stretching has shown to have a very positive impact on performance in workouts and just staying loose generally, in life. I think that tightness and stiffness is a large result of a lot of injuries that people suffer from out there and obviously the main goal of any fitness program whether it’s mission lean or another one should be to keep the exerciser healthy and ready to go so that they don’t have any interruptions and in with an injury. Especially for older people because it’s well known that if you’re older you might you have might have increased stiffness and decreased range of motion which will, in turn, make you more susceptible to injury. To learn more, download the Mission Lean app on your cell phone or you can visit https://missionlean.com

To get a copy of The Baby Boomer’s 30-Day Journal go to: www.RockYourRetirement.com/Journal

 Read all of Barbara’s blog posts by visiting https://www.rockyourretirement.com/blog/

 

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The Honeymoon Stage of Retirement

The Honeymoon Stage of retirementStarting in August of 2020, we started following the life of a pre-retiree. The goal was to follow her from pre-retirement through the retirement process so you and I can live vicariously through her experience. We want to know what’s happening as she goes through the process so we can better prepare ourselves.

As you listen in, think of any questions you might have for our subject, Barbara Mock, who is teaching us what she is learning by doing. You can email those questions to us at [email protected] and we’ll try to answer them in the show.

The Honeymoon Stage of Retirement

Barbara has been retired for a month now, so I asked her what stage of retirement she is in. Barbara says it has been such a fun adventure and it feels a lot like a honeymoon stage. We talk about why it feels like a honeymoon stage and things that have helped Barbara transition so quickly.

Graduation Trip

Barbara’s husband also planned a retirement graduation trip. They flew to Phoenix, rented a car, and drove to Tubac Golf Resort. Barbara talks about her trip and her struggles with being a beginner golfer. She also wrote a blog post about it which you can read at Barbara’s Graduation Trip.

The one thing Barbara wasn’t expecting was the connections she made with total strangers during her trip. There were a lot of people who were the same age, newly retired, and had similar life experiences.

Barbara also talks about the time she has got to spend with her 86-year-old father. They rented bikes and rode through the trail system in Tempe. You can go for miles, and he took them everywhere. He kept having to slow down and give Barbara and her husband water breaks! She also went to the pool with her father and got to spend some time just talking with him.

I cannot remember a time in my life, where I got to sit with my daddy, and just talk for like two and a half hours. How come we never do this?

Time is precious to me now, post-pandemic, I’m realizing that you never know how long you’re going to have a parent in your life. It’s easy to just assume they’ll always be there. And now that I’m retired, I really want to be more intentional about spending time with my dad. I heard stories I’d never heard before I got to ask questions. And it was just the two of us. That was probably a highlight of the whole trip to spendingretirement lifestyle time with him.

Adding structure to life in retirement

One of the things that are adding structure to Barbara’s life is she joined two women’s golf leagues. She does this twice a week and had no idea golfing with other women would be one of the most edifying, positive experiences she has had.

She and her husband also I decided that they needed to do a day together each week. So they do Adventure Wednesdays. I absolutely love this idea! The adventure Wednesday has been really fun for them. Barbara’s husband picks an activity like a hike or a place to go that neither of them has ever been before. At some point, they will take turns and Barbara will also plan Adventure Wednesday’s but she says her husband nailed planning their first one and it was awesome!

We also touched on compromising and talking with your spouse or significant other. A lot of times for someone who is newly retired, there becomes a lot of conflict in relationships because you are not used to spending so much time together. Communication and making adjustments are key.

The honeymoon stage idea is not just the honeymoon of it’s new, and it’s different. But for us, it’s been just a renewal of our marriage.

So for now, Barbara is really enjoying this honeymoon stage of retirement. She said every day feels like Saturday and she really didn’t expect retirement to be so amazing, and such a blessing. She thinks at this point her biggest challenge will be to not get over-scheduled.

I highly encourage any retirees during that space between being retired and transitioning, do something different to kind of shake you out of that habit or that schedule, so that you’re not just sitting at home going. Now what?

Health Break Segment

One of the six pillars of retirement is Health and if you don’t have your health, nothing else matters. For our health segment, we have Jon Pearlman, co-founder of Mission Lean the leading fitness app for anti-aging.

Jon talks about telomeres which are the protective caps at the ends of DNA molecules that make up our chromosomes. The length of these telomeres determines how long the DNA inside will be protected, and ultimately how long that cell will live. Or, as I like to refer to it the anti-aging part of the cell.

According to Jon, there’s been a lot of scientific literature that has come out recently linking exercise to the health and length of telomeres. Particularly aerobic exercise. Whenever you head into a workout if you want to target it from an anti-aging perspective, you need to make sure that you not only do strength training but include exercise to raise your heart rate. To learn more download the Mission Lean app on your cell phone or you can visit https://missionlean.com

To get a copy of The Baby Boomer’s 30 Day Journal go to: www.RockYourRetirement.com/Journal

Read all of Barbara’s blog posts by visiting https://www.rockyourretirement.com/blog/

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Farewells During a Pandemic – Ep 247

Farewells During a PandemicRetirement is a time that marks the passage from a life full of work to a life of leisure, accomplishment, and choice. As most people feel defined by their job, that transition to retirement is not always easy. Like other major life transitions, it can be filled with various emotions and concerns and it has been a crazy two weeks of farewell for Barbara. Not everyone would actually go through what she did, but some people would. And it’s good to be prepared for the emotional roller coaster. Besides, retirement marked as a life passage into the next chapter of your life.

One Farewell After Another

It starts with your retirement letter which was really hard to write. Barbara wanted to be really thoughtful, but she also wanted to say goodbye to her county executive who had faith in her to be a leader. Then you have to send a letter to HR and give them all the details of what you want with your leave time. That one letter unleashed a whole bunch of things.

The first one was on that following week, the county council entered into a joint resolution with our county executive. Barbara was really humbled to be on my vacation called by the Council, you need to be at this meeting on Monday. it was so humbling to have the county executive and accounting Council, not only say nice things but actually adopt a resolution that will be in the county record forever.

Farewell to Co-Workers

No matter how much you’ve looked forward to the day of leaving your place of employment when the day comes, it might be a surreal experience. Make your transition easier for yourself and others by letting people that have touch your heart. Anyone Barbara could think of that God brought to mind that she needed to say a special word of goodbye. Sometimes she connected with them and they’d either burst into tears or were delighted, or exchanged phone numbers.

A couple of people Barbara could tell were online. But they didn’t pick up and she thought, Oh, well, maybe they’re on a break. So then she’d leave on a really nice voicemail saying goodbye, saying if you want to stay in touch, and a few of them emailed her back and said, I’m sorry, I just couldn’t take the call. I didn’t want to cry. But on those hard days, when things are going bad, I’m going to play your voicemail.

Finally, I’m Retired

I’m retired, I’ve been learning a lot, Barbara said. Next week, we fly to Arizona for kind of a romantic anniversary trip, combinedFarewells During a Pandemic with golf and sightseeing. It feels very strange. I Barbara have to mentally tell herself, you will never work again. You don’t have a schedule. You don’t have to worry about anything today. She thought it’d be harder to detach than it is. But when you don’t have email or an office or things calling too, you really don’t know what’s going on, you dismiss the people that you were with. It’s weird. It’s just plain weird to not have that, especially when you’ve been doing something like this for so long, to just all of a sudden be on a permanent vacation.

Retiring is Super Emotional

What was lost can be restored. And that is all your hopes, all your dreams. It’s temporary. And if I’m an indicator of anything that’s going forward, whatever it was, you felt like you missed out during the pandemic will be restored, but you’ll be so much more grateful for it. The other thing I was learning, just hearing people is telling people how you feel about them in life before the memorial service. And that when God brings someone across your path, by showing them love or encouragement or empathy, you just don’t know the impact it’s going to have on them for that moment or that day. Exchange contact info with people that you want to stay in touch with. It’s too overwhelming to do it all at the end. So give yourself some time for those people that you want to stay in touch with.

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Six Pillars of Retirement Lifestyle
MissionLean

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