Sexual Medicine: Episode 083

Sue Goldstein on Sexual Medicine

Our guest for today is Sue Goldstein, BA, CCRC, AASECT-CSE, IF (That is a ton of credentials isn't that?!) and she's here to talk about Sexual Medicine.

In 2007, Sue and her husband moved from Boston to San Diego to open up San Diego Sexual Medicine.

She educates people on sex, sexual dysfunction, sexual functionality, basically everything that has to do with sexual medicine.

She also recently co-authored a book called “When Sex Isn't Good”.

You're never too old for sex

According to Sue, you are never too old for sex and it's never too late to regain sexual health. Research tells us that being sexually active actually decreases your stress level. There are a lot of benefits!

  • It is good for your health and your relationship.
  • It improves self-esteem
  • There is more fun in relationships and
  • There is more of a playful ease in relationships.

The oldest man they treated for erectile dysfunction was 91. So, as the saying goes “where there's a will there's a way!”

“The man with the young woman on his arm is not looking for a trophy wife, he's looking for a lubricated vagina”

We went over so many enlightening and fascinating things. Here is a short list of some of them:

  • Menopause (Sex doesn't have to hurt!)
  • HSDD (Hypoactive sexual desire disorder)
  • Erectile dysfunction
  • Injection therapy (Can't be as bad as it sounds can it?)
  • Prostate cancer and treatments to help with getting an erection
  • Implants for men
  • Hormone treatments
  • Laser therapy
  • Testosterone
  • The “G” Spot
I learned so much from conducting this interview on sexual medicine. If you would like to comment or have any information on treatments you have used (or want to learn more about), feel free to join the conversation and comment below.

Contact Information: Phone: 619-265-8865 * Email: information@sdsm.info * Website: http://www.SanDiegoSexualMedicine.com

BookWhen Sex Isn't Good: Stories & Solutions of Women With Sexual Dysfunction

 Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track…and helps with these show notes!
  • Les Briney, my husband, and Danny Ozment of Emerald City Pro who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Henry Shapiro, host of Retired Excited that airs on Fridays
  • YOU for telling your friends about the show, leaving comments below, and sharing episodes you really like on Facebook, and reviewing the show on iTunes

This post about retirement and Retirement Lifestyle first appeared on http://RockYourRetirement.com

Senior Sex after Seventy: getting it on! Ep 61

Warning:  This episode on senior sex obviously contains adult material.

senior sex

Joan Price teaches us that it's OK to have sex after seventy

Today my guest was Joan Price, who is a senior sex guru.  And as you know, sex is an important part of the retirement lifestyle.

Joan, who is an “advocate for ageless sexuality”, has written numerous books, and in fact, she has been called the “senior sexpert”.   When I met her online I knew that I just had to have her on the show!

We discussed the fact that NO, we don’t have to sit in a separate bathtub holding hands with our partner (think Cialis commercials) and in fact, we don’t even need to have partner at all!  Think about it, if you are a woman, chances are your partner (if you have one) is going to predecease you if you are around the same age since women live longer than men.

Senior Sex?  I have so many questions!

  • What do you think about drugs like Cialis and Viagra?
  • Should these senior sex drugs be covered by Medicare?
  • What made you start writing about senior sex in the first place?
  • How can we spice up our sex lives?
  • Why do we tend to put our sex lives on hold as we get older?
  • What do we do if we don’t have a partner (Joan has a lot to say about this subject!)
  • If you’re shy, what do you do?
  • How can you talk to your doctor and what should you say?
  • What do you do with all those adult toys after you review them?

We talked about the fact that she writes reviews of sex toys from a senior perspective.

I asked her what the difference would be between a non-senior and a senior perspective and she was happy to tell me.

  1. We lose sensitivity as we age, so senior sex toys should be really powerful.
  2. For the same reason, they have to go a long time. We don’t want the battery dying at a critical moment.
  3. An adult toy should be comfortable for arthritic hands (ergonomic).
  4. The controls should be easy for aging eyes to see.
  5. We need to be able to hold on to them with slippery fingers, so they should be easy to hold.
  6. These devices should be made with non-toxic materials. There are no laws governing this like there are for dog toys or baby toys.  (Who knew?)
  7. Aging women may prefer slimmer senior sex toys.

Joan has several books including:

She also offers classes and webinars, and you can find out more information on her websites:

www.joanprice.com  or  www.nakedatourage.com

Download today's FREEBIE:

33 reasons that sex is good for you (especially at our age) HERE.

Special Thanks to:

  • Angie Strehlow who helps us get great guests that help us with our retirement lifestyle while keeping everything on track
  • Les Briney who edits the show and makes my guests and me sound terrific
  • Lesinda Tubalado who helps keep the website up to date
  • YOU the listener for letting other people know about this show by sharing on social media, and telling your friends about it

This post on Retirement Lifestyle first appeared on http://RockYourRetirement.com

Deserving Desire: Bonus Episode

Let's talk about Sexual Desire with Beth Montemurro. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/bonus-episode-deserving-desire

Why did Beth write the book, Deserving Desire?

Beth Montemurro is a sociology professor at Penn State University.  During the last 15 years she's been studying gender and sexuality.  She has studied bridal showers and bachelorette parties (which was her doctoral dissertation), male exotic dancers, reality television, and attitudes.

She is interested in the ways that people learn about and develop sexual selves through interaction with culture and the ways in which gender norms are created and sustained in everyday life.

Beth Montemurro author of Deserving Desire

Beth Montemurro author of Deserving Desire

I spoke with her because of her book, Deserving Desire: Women's Stories of Sexual Evolution.

I loved this paperback book cover!  Although it’s considered a textbook, she can help the non-academic as well, and I plan to purchase a copy of this book for my kindle.

We live in a youth-oriented culture.  How does this affect women and our desire as we age?

Beth told me several stories about some women she interviewed.  Please listen to the episode to hear those stories.  We talked about how our partners mold our definitions of who we are sexually.

When a woman goes through menopause, there is no change in desire unless she isn't active sexually, in which case her desire tends to lessen.

Beth sent me a beautiful signed copy of her book, Deserving Desire, to give away in a drawing.

Kathe with Deserving Desire Book

Kathe with Deserving Desire Book

If you read this before 8/12/16, there is still time to enter to win it!  Just go to http://RockYourRetirement.com/drawing to enter.  Note: You must be residing in the USA in order to win.  Good luck!

Author’s Book(s):

  • Something Old, Something Bold: Bridal Showers and Bachelorette Parties
  • Deserving Desire: Women's Stories of Sexual Evolution
  • Something Old, Something Bold: Bridal Showers and Bachelorette Parties

What do you think people should know BEFORE they retire?

Maintaining sexual desire is normal as people age and no one should feel limited by stereotypes about aging.

What to do if you feel stuck?

Stay engaged in relationships.  Seek out new relationships.  Accept that the way your sexuality is expressed may change, but that does not mean sexual intimacy becomes unimportant or non-existent.

Contact information:

If you are a man in your 50s and 60s, Beth wants to interview you about a research study she's conducting!  Please email her to set up a phone appointment.

Phone: 215-881-7566   Email: eam15@psu.edu   Website: abington.psu.edu/beth-montemurro   www.facebook.com/deservingdesire

Don't forget to enter the drawing!   http://RockYourRetirement.com/drawing

Sex is not just for young people! Ep 16

Yes! Sex is not just for young people. Dr. Susan Writer is going to talk to us about how we can have a vibrant, exciting sex life. You can listen to the show at http://rockyourretirement.libsyn.com/sex-isnt-just-for-young-people-episode-016

Dr. Susan Writer shows us how sex isn't just for young people.Sex is not just for young people!

Dr. Susan Writer has her Ph.D. in clinical psychology and has been working in the field for over 15 years in the San Diego area.  She works full time for Aurora Behavioral Health Care, doing community outreach and clinical education; and part time for HELP see individuals, couples and families in her therapy practice.  Dr. Writer sees a wide range of individuals.

but has specialized training in sexuality and gender and expertise working with older adults.


Susan is passionate about making sure that people have the vibrant, exciting sex lives throughout the entirety of their lives. In this episode we discuss the following:

  • Learn what a sex therapist does and how it differs from a sex surrogate.
  • The health and mental benefits of sex and intimacy and how it can improve the quality of your life as you age.
  • Learn how Susan works with hospice or end-of-life patients who have long-term partners and how she helps them to recreate a sexual, sensual or intimate connection before they pass so that they may rekindle a part of their relationship that may have been lost.
  • You aren’t the only person who may not know how to use a penis pump!

What do you think people should know BEFORE they retire?

Life will change and that it may not be exactly as they had expected.  Many people look at retirement as an opportunity to just sit back and relax.  But the problem is that all too often, the excess of this can lead to isolation, depression and dissatisfaction with life–or even the deterioration of physical (and mental) health.  Retirement really needs to be framed as a new chapter of activity in someone’s life.  That activity doesn’t have to be “work”, it can be fun and exciting–the key is that it is active and it continues to provide stimulation for growth (mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually).  Retirement is about creating an opportunity to explore everything that we offer ourselves in life–as opposed to waiting for life to offer things to us.

We have a lot of listeners who are new retirees or maybe feel stuck in their lives at the moment.  If you were sitting across the table from a new retiree, what’s the one piece of advice that you would give to have a successful retirement?

Get out, be social, be active, and re-create yourself… and don’t put your sexual self on a shelf to get dusty, or if you have–dust it off and get cracking!

Contact information: Email: drsusanwriter@gmail.com

Dr. Susan Writer shows us how sex isn't just for young people.

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