This episode is from the vault and was first released July 09, 2018
Let’s talk about senior dating–how to date and build intimate relationships as we age
Walker Thornton is 63 years old with a background in Educational Psychology. She has been a writer for years, writing poetry and journaling. Walker started dating post-divorce in her early 50's and started writing about it. She realized there wasn’t a whole lot of information for older women when it came to dating and relationships.
Walker works with individuals to talk about relationships. She has conversations with men and women to revamp their dating profile. She is sometimes called “The Sex Whisperer”.
Senior Dating—As we age this is the first thing you need to do if you are ready to get out there:
Make sure you are ready and you are not rushing to fill a void. Your desire to go out with someone should be based on mutual interest. Often people rush into the dating world in a despair which can lead to not wise choices. Think about what you are looking for. As we age, are you looking for marriage, a long-term relationship, romance, sex or someone to do things with?
Are online dating services a positive or negative way to find people especially for senior dating?
It can be a great or awful way. It depends upon your goal. Be prepared to put in work and effort to find a good match.
Advice for someone getting into the online dating world:
- Be honest about yourself and share your real self.
- Show accurate photos and information so the other person can get a sense of who you really are.
- Talk on the phone prior to the first date.
- Make the first date short, leave yourself an out if it’s not going well.
Walker recommends open communication between sexual partners, especially around comfort levels and using protection. When it comes to flirting, you can simply make direct eye contact, smile and touch the other person’s hand to show interest. You don’t necessarily have to twirl your hair or bat your eyes. There are many ways to express a desire or interest subtly.
Words of wisdom for someone just getting back into dating:
- Make a list of the traits you want your ideal partner to have. What are you looking for?
- Get a good, recent picture of yourself you feel comfortable in made for your dating profile.
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